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I think the distinction to be made here is that HM was attacked for a personal parenting decision whereas SVM blogger was being attacked for making generally offensive assumptions about other people.
HM was saying anything about other people - she was talking about a sad moment that her child had.
The apple and the orange of this comparison are one was a personal introspection and the other was an outward finger-pointing at a whole group, i.e. Asia is a big fucking continent and she lumped us all as FOB.

And no, I don’t think you’d been insulated by being Asian if you yourself had made the same comment. I do think you’re asking some valid questions… and I do agree that we need to be fair. Trust me, if I read something similar in tone written by an Asian American, I would have still been right there with a brand new asshole specially giftwrapped.
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Thanks, MN.

sierrajuliettromeo: Yes, EXACTLY, that’s the point of my (incredibly long) post. Some people are so RUDE. I don’t give a shit how anyone else parents (unless, of course, they are abusing them but that’s neither here nor there). If they have an opinion, fine. But do they need to be so freakin’ rude about it?

No manners, some people.

I don’t know for sure those were AP moms. But c’mon. Let’s face it. They probabaly were.

And as an AP mom myself, I feel like how I used to feel when another fundie would come around spewing their twisted gospel vitriol at my non-fundie friends. I feel like throwing their Bibles back at them and telling them to f*ck off. Of course w/ the AP’ers, it would be The Baby Book or the Womanly Art of Breastfeedings (books I own in multiple copies and give out freely to my prego friends).

And what’s with that other anonymous commentor telling the owner of this blog what to do?

Don’t people realize there is a code of conduct when it comes to reading and commenting on other people’s blogs??!!! I just can’t stand such RUDENESS.

Oh, and now I’m being rude by leaving a blog post in someone else’s comment section, so I’ll stop.

Halfmama, you KICK ASS, and not just as a parent!

Kady: I’m going to address your comment, but not now because I’m too tired. And possibly over at KMs. I’m not sure if everyone is too tired of this subject over there though. Anyone, anyone…?

Ok, many of you are going to point out the obvious. Anonymous comments are more likely to be in-flame-atory than constructive and Katie’s inopportune last sentence (”Welcome to America…”) left her with a big ol’ foot in her big ol’ mouth. But these are ultimately pretty nit-picky details. There are anon posters who are anon because they don’t blog (not really a “failing” in itself). Then there are people who are just not completely introspective about every sentence that they send into blogosphere (also not really a “failing” in itself). Being a hasty blogger does not a racist make. (Lord knows I’ve said some pretty stupid, easily misconstrued things in my day.)

How are we suppose to have real conversations in this environment?

And (obviously) Typepad offers that option as well.

MN: Blogger (being free, and me being cheap) unfortunately doesn’t offer up the IP addresses. Carol sent me a workaround but I haven’t tried it out yet. Which sucks because it would have helped me with the following AC… (why do I get the feeling that Lettie B is Cece?)

AC/Lettie B: If you didn’t recognize that the kickass parents comment was tongue-in-cheek, then LEAVE. You missed the entire point of the post.

However, yes, I do kick ass. And I rock as well. ZOWIE!